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It got me thinking of all the friends I've had that I'm no longer in touch with. People who were and still are very dear to me, but aren't in my life anymore.
First off, there's my best friend from pre-school. We went on to the same infants school after that and remained friends, but then I changed schools and that was that. I saw her about 10 years ago in my old neighbourhood, but she didn't see me. I remember playing in pre-school together on the plastic slide and having biscuits and juice in break time.
Then there are my two childhood best friends, two girls (unrelated) that I used to see really often. I lost touch when one of them moved away and the other's dad remarried (I don't know why that was, but hey..). A few years later I got in touch with both. One's parents had split and the other had gotten married. The first girl was dealing with a truckload of crap in her life at the time and we lost touch again pretty soon. I often think about her. The other girl got miffed when I didn't phone her back one week (ok, I know I said I would, but I'm terrible with the phone - everyone who knows me knows that, and I did phone eventually). She stopped talking to me as a result, and after my apologies were sadly unaccepted, I decided to let it be.
Then there's my aunty Aisha (who's not really my aunty, but always was an aunty to me) who passed away last month. She was the first person I knew who had a computer at home - back in the day when Windows 95 was the bees knees and paint rocked. But best of all, she had a swivel chair. Oh the hours I spent swiveling on that chair!
It's funny, of all the friends I've had that are no longer a part of my life, these four are the most significant. They are the ones that I often think of and wonder if they're ok now. I hope they're happy wherever they are.
What friends have you lost touch with? And what do you do when you're looking for writing inspiration?
I was just thinking about this last night. One of my closest friends is moving 6,000 miles away - back to her home in Newfoundland. And even though I know we'll "say" we'll stay in touch I know that we'll drift a part. I have drifted a part from SO MANY friends over the past four years with all my moving and switching colleges. It's a sad thing.
ReplyDeleteI am no longer in touch with a girl that i was best friends with from the age of about 4 or so? We went to the same university but just grew apart. Last year we actually got together for a walk around a local lake & then went to lunch. It was good to see her and hear what she was up to (her fiance had called off their wedding about 2 weeks before the wedding, so she was dealing with quite a bit). It made me a little sad that we were no longer apart of each other's lives, but I think it was meant to be that way. I truly believe in the 'reason, season, lifetime' thing. People come in and out of our lives. It's kind of sad, but it seems like it's the way life goes.
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